Carla Harvey explores the gift of expression she’s been given as a member of Butcher Babies and how she changed her life by helping people cope with grief.
Let’s start by talking about your background and why grief counseling is important to you.
As most people know by now, I was an embalmer and a funeral director for a few years before the Butcher Babies took off. I was always attracted to that career since I was a kid. I always wanted to learn more about it. I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life. At the time I was going to school for Mortuary Science, I was lost myself. I had been in the entertainment industry for a few years. I worked for Playboy. I did a bunch of acting jobs and wasn’t really happy. I wasn’t living a very healthy lifestyle. I needed a change in my life and going to school for Mortuary Science proved to be the exact change I needed. I was focused again and was doing something that I loved. Then, when I started to work in the field and work at a funeral home and help people – I also worked for hospice in the evenings – it just changed my life by being able to help people when they needed it most. Being in front of the camera reciting lines suddenly seemed so trite to me. I was actually making a difference in people’s lives. Being able to see that made a difference in my own life, the way I carried myself, and how I felt about living. It was life-changing and life-saving for me. It was a crux in my life that led to what I do now. Even though I can’t work at a mortuary anymore, I do grief counseling now. I do Skype sessions and in-person sessions at my office in Los Angeles. I’m still able to work with people one-on-one. As a musician, we started off having a lot of fun. I don’t want to say we didn’t have any direction, because we did somewhat, but not like we do now. When we realized we could make a difference with our voices and the things we were saying, we changed everything. We’ve all helped people who are going through hard times by writing music they can connect to.